FAQs

Is coaching like mediation?

In Conflict Coaching (Jones and Brinkert, 2008), conflict coaching is defined as “a process in which a coach and client communicate one-on-one for the purpose of developing the client’s conflict-related understanding, interaction strategies, and interaction skills.”

Mediation, on the other hand, is when two or more people get together to discuss the conflict with the help of an impartial mediator who follows and participates in the conversation.

Is this like therapy?

No. My job is to analyze the conflict and communication around the conflict. While emotions are often a big part of the conversation, my focus remains on helping you dig deeper into the situation and empowering you to engage with the conflict in a way which is right for you. I will not psychoanalyze you, tell you how to relate to others, or ask you about your childhood.

You’ll take my side, right?

Sort of. I will support you and challenge you. I will play devil’s advocate, question your assumptions, and help you see the situation from new angles.

If you want to fight well for yourself, give me a call. If you’re looking for someone to fight for you, an attorney is a better option.

Is this confidential?

Yes. The Colorado Dispute Resolution Act (13-22­301) provides for confidentiality of any and all written or oral mediation (or mediation-related) communication. Mediation communication cannot be entered into a judicial or administrative proceeding unless agreed to in writing by all parties.

I won’t talk about your case with others or reveal that you are my client, I keep all records and notes under lock and key, and my computer and phone are password protected.

Is this voluntary?

Yes. My goal is to help you handle conflicts and difficult situations well. Every situation and person is different and my services are not a perfect fit for all of them. I invite you to let me know if something is not working for you. If we can’t find a way to make it work well, we can terminate our work together. I always welcome constructive feedback.